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Inside a Love Gutted by Dementia

Frontotemporal dementia strikes early and fast

By Matt Cantor,  Newser Staff

Posted May 6, 2012 8:05 AM CDT

(Newser) – A little-known form of dementia can turn sufferers into completely different people, leaving spouses and children struggling to cope with someone who's still there in body but not in mind. Frontotemporal dementia bears some similarities to Alzheimer's—but it can hit patients who are younger and it develops faster. The New York Times tells a tragic and touching story of one couple brought to the brink of divorce before Michael French was diagnosed with the disorder; now, Ruth French has devoted her life to caring for a man who can no longer speak.

Michael French was a warm and intelligent man whose behavior became erratic: He stopped talking to Ruth; he got fired from his consulting job; he began to do bizarre things like buying stock in doomed companies and burning the family's pots and pans. Not knowing what had transformed the man she loved into a moody, erratic stranger, Ruth mulled divorce. But when Michael was diagnosed with frontotemporal dementia, she vowed to care for him; after years, however, she was forced to put him in a nursing home. "When I told him that I had made arrangements, he said—and this is a man who can’t speak, so he had to muster every bit of energy he could—he said, ‘You did the best you could.'" Click through for the full tale.

The New York Times describes a couple struck by an obscure type of dementia.
The New York Times describes a couple struck by an obscure type of dementia.   (Shutterstock)
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News_Reader
May 17, 2012 12:13 PM CDT
My grandmother struggled with this for 2 years and developed Alzheimer's during it's onset before passing.  It was horrible...she forgot who we were, who she was, she forgot her life...everything she worked so hard to accomplish...gone.  Who she was as a person...gone.  Her children, grandchildren, husband...gone.  General common sense about her surroundings...gone.  Imagine waking up each day and not knowing who you are, or who these people are around you.  She thought we were holding her against her will and we had taken her baby...she would cry and fight us, swear at us...then just give in sobbing and swearing.  My mother ended up sleeping on the couch at the end of the hallway for 2 years because she would try to sneak out at night.  The next day it would start over.  On rare occasion, she would remember her daughter (who, bless her soul, refused to put her in any home but her own) and have a quiet day. It truly was a personal hell for her.  She suffered greatly for those 2 years, and it's something I wouldn't wish on my worst enemy.
ladyrosedeky
May 10, 2012 7:51 PM CDT
Not to joke but this may be why a certain politician keeps lying so badly and now claims he is responsible for the recovery of the auto industry and the capture of bin-Laden. We had a former president that was diagnosed with Alzheimers when he left office. Could we please get this man tested before the election. It would explain a lot about a man who is suppose to be so moral and has held such a high place in his church's community. I've known too many people that these type of diseases have effected and it is tragic. It would be wonderful to be able to reverse this process or prevent it. But until then, their care providers need all the support their community can give them.
finkster
May 6, 2012 1:05 PM CDT
Sad for all those who love a person that has Dementia
 

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