Premarital Sex Isn't Just OK— It's Healthier

Sexual morality isn't about timing: Jill Filipovic

By Matt Cantor,  Newser Staff

Posted Sep 24, 2012 12:13 PM CDT | Updated Sep 24, 2012 1:47 PM CDT

(Newser) – With conservatives touting a wait-until-marriage stance on sex, it's time for "sex-positive liberals" to state things clearly and unequivocally: "Having sex before marriage is the best choice for nearly everyone," writes Jill Filipovic in the Guardian. Sex can bolster happiness and lead to a longer life, and it "releases stress, boosts immunities, helps you sleep, and is heart-healthy." Of course, in the wrong circumstances, it can also be harmful. But "sexual morality isn't about how long you wait. It's about how you treat yourself and the people you're with."

When to have sex is an individual choice; the problem comes with cultural and governmental pressure to wait. "The instruction to wait forever to experience a fundamental human pleasure is pointless and cruel," Filipovic notes, and notions of sex-free "purity" are inherently degrading to women. What's more, sex before marriage allows couples to determine their sexual compatibility. "While the old adage tells women that men won't buy the cow if they can get the milk for free, if I'm buying a cow, you can bet I'm going to make sure the milk is to my liking." Click through for Filipovic's full column.

Sex before marriage is right for most people, writes Jill Filipovic.
Sex before marriage is right for most people, writes Jill Filipovic.   (Shutterstock)
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When government money is going toward telling people to just wait until marriage, we are literally funding an idea that has never worked in all of human history. - Jill Filipovic

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