No Kids for Me, Thanks; There, I Said It
Meghan Daum explains her choice
By John Johnson, Newser Staff
Posted Aug 6, 2013 12:38 PM CDT
Updated Aug 6, 2013 1:57 PM CDT

(Newser) – The decision not to have kids seems to be entering the national conversation more and more, the Time cover on a "Childfree Life" being only the latest example. At the Los Angeles Times, Meghan Daum enters the fray: "Though I've offered hints in this column and elsewhere that motherhood is not exactly a priority for me, I've avoided coming right out and saying the truth, which is that I never wanted children, and even now in the twilight of my fecundity, I'm glad I haven't had them." Yes, she's second-guessed herself, "but I always came back to the same place, which is that parenting is a momentous job that should be undertaken only by those who really want it. And, for whatever reason, I just never have."

Daum writes that she "cringes" at the usual reasons cited, which usually boil down to materialistic, selfish ones—those who flippantly say they'd prefer to sleep late or afford a fancy car, for example. It's time to elevate the conversation, she writes. "Knowing yourself well enough to realize you're not up for parenthood is ... the definition of being a moral, ethical human being." What's more, childless adults still can have a meaningful role in the raising of kids, if they so choose. (Daum herself is a court advocate in the foster care system.) "It may take a village to raise a child, but not every villager needs to be a mom or dad," she writes. Click for her full column.

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Aug 11, 2013 7:02 PM CDT
When you get down to it, most folks that conciously decide not to have children do it for selfish financial reasons. If this becomes a trend, the country is in trouble. Not me: I am sixty years old, and will be dead before the effects set in. The people who are young now will grow up in a nation with a rapidly shrinking American population. As the nation goes grey, more and more of our populace will be immigrants, and our culture will change forever. I don't see it as a good change, either.
Aug 8, 2013 7:33 AM CDT
$10 says she has a bun in the oven by December
Aug 7, 2013 9:52 PM CDT
Babies should be and will be produced in factories soon enough, as predicted in the novel "Brave New World" written back in 1932 by Aldous Huxley.