Want to Talk Intelligently About Rape? 5 Rules
It's appalling how many people are incapable: Katie McDonough
By Evann Gastaldo, Newser Staff
Posted Sep 5, 2013 12:45 PM CDT
Protesters gathered on the Yellowstone County Courthouse lawn in Billings, Mont., Aug. 29, 2013, calling for the resignation of a judge over comments he made about the teenage victim in a rape case.   (AP Photo/Matthew Brown)

(Newser) – Citing the 30-day sentence received by a teacher who raped a student, the Washington Post column arguing that teacher-student sex is sometimes OK, the sympathy extended to the Steubenville rapists, and of course, Richard Cohen's quite controversial Washington Post column about Steubenville, Katie McDonough comes to this depressing conclusion: Just about a year after Todd Akin's "legitimate rape" comment, "it’s become clear that, far from being a ridiculous outlier, Akin’s view of sexual violence is basically how too many people with high profiles choose to talk about rape: quick to blame survivors, even quicker to excuse perpetrators." But it's easy to "not be terrible when talking about rape," McDonough writes, and offers up five rules to live by on Salon:

  • It's great to have empathy, but don't act like it's tragic and unfair when a rapist gets punished. Save that feeling for the victim of the rape. "It isn’t a tragedy when people who commit crimes face consequences. It’s actually called justice when that happens."
  • "Female sexuality does not invite rape, ever (ever, ever, ever, ever, ever)."
  • You can be against rape and still be all for sex. Any time you're talking about sex without consent, call it rape. Nothing less.
  • Don't joke about prison rape. It's not funny, it's just rape. By minimizing it, we ensure men will continue to under-report being the victims of rape.
Click for McDonough's full column.

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Sep 6, 2013 11:02 AM CDT
Her 5 rules are pretty straight forward, and I agree with every one. I would add 6)- Never, under any circumstances should anyone cry false rape. It minimizes legitimate cases, and uses resources needed for valid crimes. False rape should come with criminal charges, fines/jail time. And, I'm a feminist. Go figure.
Sep 5, 2013 6:36 PM CDT
1. Leave emotions out of the discussion. 2. Communicate respect if you wish to be respected. 3. Do not assume, stick to the facts. 4. Political and ideological believes have no relevancy to the discussion of rape. 5. Don't accuse people disagreeing with you of rape. 6. Leave emotions out of it.
Sep 5, 2013 2:59 PM CDT
The 5 Man Hating Feminist rules about RAPE. 1. ALL MEN are potential rapists. Every single one without exception. Not a single man on the planet can control their urges to abuse or hurt a woman. In fact all men have raped a woman at some point. They are all creepy pervs. 2. All women should be able to act any way they want, dress anyway they want, and say anything they want because women are all Perfect Goddesses. If a man misunderstands and sees sexual hints in any of that, see rule number one. 3. If a woman has consensual sex with a man and then has buyers remorse, its rape and all the man's doing. 4. Any woman should be able to destroy a man's life by falsely accusing him of Rape with no repercussions at all for doing so if she is found out. Because the man should just apply it to sometime they did rape a woman. Because we all know men do it constantly. see rule number one. 5 aww hell, that covers it.