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Spouses get more irritating as time goes by, study says

By Rob Quinn, Newser Staff

Posted Feb 6, 2008 9:45 AM CST

(Newser) – As people age, their relationships with other people gradually become smoother except in one area—their marriages, a new study has found. Researchers discovered that the longer two people are married, the more likely they are to find each other irritating and demanding. It's completely normal—and could even be a sign of a healthy relationship, LiveScience reports.

"As we age and become more comfortable with one another, we're more able to express ourselves to each other," explained a researcher. The study quizzed adults of all ages about their relationships with spouses, family, and friends. The spousal relationship was rated the most negative in all age groups, although the older age groups, apparently more adept at avoiding confrontation, reported less conflict.

A University of Michigan has found that married couples tend to view each other as more irritating and demanding the longer they are together. (KRT Photos)

A new study from the University of Michigan could be worrying news for people whose spouses are getting on their nerves. (KRT Photos)

USA. Las Vegas, Nevada. 1968. Wedding chapel. (NYC27747) (Magnum Photos)

Couples can get married at the drive-through window of the a Little White Chapel in Las Vegas, Nevada. Brittney Spears was recently married here. (KRT Photos)

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