Married Women, Fight for Your First Name
Don't give in to antiquated formalities: Catherine Rampell
By John Johnson, Newser Staff
Posted Aug 29, 2014 2:53 PM CDT

(Newser) – As she prepared for her upcoming wedding, Catherine Rampell allowed herself one "unyielding, Bridezillian demand"—she insisted that her invitations use women's first names. That is, she didn't want them going out to "Mr. and Mrs. John Doe" as tradition for some reason still dictates, she writes in the Washington Post. You might think this wouldn't be a problem in 2014, but Rampell writes of her struggle to find a stationery vendor who would comply. And though her mom finally found a calligrapher who agreed, the invitations ended up going out in the antiquated style anyway.

A scan of wedding sites finds that the Internet seems to be "conspiring to uphold this awful, antifeminist tradition," writes Rampell. While it's not confined to wedding invitations, that's where it "especially rankles" because the soon-to-be married couple is in the process of figuring out what it means to merge as one. "So I urge all you fellow brides-to-be out there: If you choose just one detail to fight over with your family, friends and vendors ... let it be this one. Call your married female friends by their given names, and then, post-wedding, insist they do the same for you." Click for her full column.

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Sep 4, 2014 1:33 PM CDT
it's all about the non existent "war on women"
Chris Farley
Sep 2, 2014 2:41 PM CDT
"conspiring to uphold this awful, antifeminist tradition" is this a joke, or do feminist really find this to be an issue.
Arthur Machado
Aug 31, 2014 1:24 AM CDT
Clearly she is lying. Typed "wedding invitations" in Bing the first link takes you to a page where full names are on the samples. Furthermore, you want to be treated equally and whine about this. If a man wrote this and an editor was actually dumb enough to print it the man would be made a laughing stock. You want to be equal than act like an adult.