Kate Elazegui and Emily Kehe have been married two years, and they have two newborn baby boys—born four days apart. The couple shares their story with The Cut, recounting how Kate, three years older than then-36-year-old Emily, started trying to get pregnant first. After months with no successful inseminations, the couple decided Kate would try IVF once—and, at the same time, Emily would start the insemination process herself. "I think [the doctor] wanted us to have a positive result so badly, so she basically was like, 'Why not start Emily now? Because it might take a little while,'" Kate recalls. Kate says she raised the issue of both women ending up pregnant. "Oh the chances of you both getting pregnant are so slim," she recounts the doctor as saying. But that's exactly what happened.
Emily got pregnant right away, and three weeks later, they found out Kate was expecting as well. The rest of the process followed in a similar vein: Emily's pregnancy and birth were relatively easy; Kate's were more difficult and had more complications. Emily found it easy to breastfeed the baby she delivered, Reid, while Kate struggled with breastfeeding Eddie; Emily has, at times, nursed both babies. That's helped her to feel "equally bonded" with them both, Emily says, whereas Kate says she struggles a bit more with that: "You’re bonding with the baby you delivered because you have to, and then you look over and remember that there’s another one. You have to remind yourself this is your son, too." Ultimately, they say, it was a great experience ... that they're not planning to repeat. The full piece is worth a read.