Husband Writes of Battle to Get Pregnant With Humor, Honesty
'I have not felt the vertigo of infinity like when we were told our baby was dead'
By Elizabeth Armstrong Moore,  Newser Staff
Posted May 27, 2016 6:40 AM CDT
Leah and Dan Majesky are expecting a baby girl.   (Dan Majesky)

(Newser) – After trying to get pregnant for three years and suffering a miscarriage in the process, a Cincinnati couple have decided to go public with their story of joy and heartbreak and joy again as they announce not just their pregnancy but the many ups and downs of their path to it. In a lengthy Facebook post, Daniel Majesky, who is 37 and one year older than his wife of three years, Leah, even manages to inject a bit of humor—and not just when describing the misguided presence of wicker furniture in a room meant for masturbating fathers-to-be. To wit, when talking about the hormones Leah had to take: "My job was to try and not say anything dumb, because she also needed to be calm. I tried to avoid triggering phrases like 'Hey,' or 'Good morning,' or 'I love you,' but I kept f---ing up, and opening my mouth, or allowing Leah to see TV programs, or commercials, to read books, and interact with the world in any way."

Majesky, who describes himself on Twitter as a "nominal reverend," also writes about the crushing loss he felt when they were informed just weeks into their first pregnancy that there was no heartbeat: "I’ve felt time stop before. ... I have not felt the vertigo of infinity like when we were told our baby was dead. ... I don’t think it was until around the New Year that I went a day without crying about it." Majesky tells ABC News that people in his position feel "isolated" and "alone," but that "it's hurting people to hold it in." The couple is now expecting a daughter in November, and Majesky says he'll be holding his breath for 26ish weeks. As for why he wrote the 3,336-word pregnancy announcement that he did, Majesky tells Today "that [miscarried] baby left a permanent mark on us, and it didn't seem fair that it would get hidden away." (Scientists find a cause of repeat miscarriages.)