'Do-It-Yourself' Can Be Fightin' Words

35% of British homeowners admit to house-related disputes
By Ambreen Ali,  Newser User
Posted May 4, 2008 12:18 PM CDT
Couples said they clashed on differing ways of operating in DIY projects: Leaving tools around or taking longer than the other person wants led to fights.   (Shutter stock)
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(Newser) – Adrian starts painting in the middle, but Hannah wants the wall layered methodically. Adrian storms out, and Hannah works alone. The DIY dispute is no anomaly: 35% of British homeowners said in a recent study that home improvements caused domestic rifts. Underlying the debates on paint color and floorboards is a power struggle, marital therapist Andrew G. Marshall writes in the Times of London.

Unlike money or sex issues, half-finished projects constantly remind couples of their disagreement. The bickering can be a sign of passive-aggressive or controlling behavior, but before you call a professional to finish the job, try working through it. Marshall writes that DIY projects offer a chance to practice finding solutions. Focus on each other’s positives, try compromising, and when all else fails, divvy up the work.