Gays, Like Everyone, Find Marriage a Mixed Blessing

Massachusetts' lessons for California couples
By Harry Kimball,  Newser Staff
Posted Jun 15, 2008 6:50 AM CDT
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(Newser) – It’s been four years since Massachusetts legalized gay marriage, and there are winners, losers—and everything in between, the New York Times reports. In what one gay married man calls “a mixed bag,” it appears that gays are more likely to rush into marriage, more likely to marry older, and more likely to sign pre-nuptial agreements. Pay attention, California.

Gay marriage in Massachusetts is also bringing new pressures to the single scene. “I know he cares about me,” said one anxious, ring-hungry man. “I just think he doesn’t want to." And while some proclaim they don’t need a “paper for any type of validation,” one married gay called “uncle” for the first time found it brought a "tear to my eye.”