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Man Treats Virtual Wife Better Than Real One

Second Life getting in the way of first lives

By Heather McPherson,  Newser User

Posted Aug 11, 2007 8:49 AM CDT

(Newser) – A man who spends up to 20 hours a day playing the virtual-reality video game Second Life may be getting more fulfillment from his online wife than his real one—and his non-cyber-spouse isn't feeling fulfilled at all. Ric Hoogestraat, a 53-year-old ex-teacher, says his virtual matrimony is only a game, even as his real wife talks separation. The Wall Street Journal looks at the surprising emotional power of virtual relationships.

The real woman behind Hoogestraat’s Second Life marriage takes their vow seriously—“there’s a huge trust between us,” she says. She once spent $480 to buy her faux spouse a private simulated island to recuperate from real-life surgery. Many gamers say they’re closer to their online friends than their real ones, and counselors confirm that 3-D marriages are collapsing because of virtual affairs.

A virtual party is held in the online world of Second Life, where real people can immerse themselves and socialize, own property and even wed.
A virtual party is held in the online world of Second Life, where real people can immerse themselves and socialize, own property and even wed.   ((c) Ishbel Hartmann)
A Second Life avatar shows off a wedding ring after an online marriage ceremony. Ric Hoogestraat, 53, is married in two worlds, to two different women.
A Second Life avatar shows off a wedding ring after an online marriage ceremony. Ric Hoogestraat, 53, is married in two worlds, to two different women.   ((c) MarkWallace)
An example of the level of detail and humanity that some artists put into the crafting of avatars for their Second Life.
An example of the level of detail and humanity that some artists put into the crafting of avatars for their "Second Life".   ((c) MarkWallace)
Online romance is no longer new, but conflicts arise in real marriages when video games turn domestic.
Online romance is no longer new, but conflicts arise in real marriages when video games turn domestic.   (Shutterstock.com; Composite)
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