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White House Gets Greetings All Wrong

Egalitarian handshake better than hugs, curtsies: Miss Manners

By Ambreen Ali,  Newser User

Posted Jun 10, 2009 4:07 PM CDT

(Newser) – After watching six presidents botch greetings with their global counterparts, Miss Manners has had it. “Where is the Office of Protocol, for goodness’ sake,” Judith Martin fumes in the Washington Post. Fifty years ago, “the American huggy movement” replaced the egalitarian handshake—a gesture that made Americans feel “superior to people who had to bow down to their leaders.”

Hugging implies an elitist intimacy, Martin says, and warns that “those photographs are bound to surface when the loved one or his country does something nasty.” But the “symbolic subservience” of a curtsy or bow “to a foreign ruler is worse. When an American official does it, we can only hope it was because he was noticing that his own shoelace was undone—and not that he recognizes the divine right of kings.”

Michelle Obama demonstrates an intimacy with the queen that Miss Manners says is elitist since mere subjects can't do that.
Michelle Obama demonstrates an intimacy with the queen that Miss Manners says is elitist since mere subjects can't do that.   (AP Photo/Daniel Hambury, pool)
The handshake, demonstrated here by President Obama and Saudi Arabia's King Abdullah, was once America's egalitarian approach to world greetings.
The handshake, demonstrated here by President Obama and Saudi Arabia's King Abdullah, was once America's egalitarian approach to world greetings.   (AP Photo/Gerald Herbert)
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Heads of state are the symbolic embodiments of their countries, and the greeting gesture is itself symbolic.
- Judith Martin

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sache
Jun 15, 2009 2:38 AM CDT
Miss Manners....Shut up. Oops, make that Please,Shut up. Forgot my manners for a moment.
lindamae
Jun 11, 2009 8:29 AM CDT
She is so right. We may not agree personally but as adults, we should do what is expected of us in different social situations. The rest of the world knows how to behave iin social political situations so should we. To bow is to show that you are subservient to a ruler. Why doesn't Obama know that heads of state are equals? Of course, then you have that silly Brian Williams bowing - I said BOWING - not once but twice to Obama. What a joke. They used to call us the ugly Americans in Europe because some of us acted like clods. Our president should know better.
Cat-Lover
Jun 11, 2009 2:49 AM CDT
I'm hoping we go back to the hand kiss for women guests and arm grip for men (to check what they have up their sleeves).

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