RIP Gaydar: You Just Can't Tell Anymore

Straight and gay behavior not so different these days
By Matt Cantor,  Newser User
Posted Aug 11, 2009 1:27 PM CDT
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(Newser) – Gaydar just isn’t what it used to be: The line has blurred between what was long considered classic gay and straight behavior, Danica Lo writes in the New York Post. These days, the fact that a guy's “handsome,” “well-groomed,” and wants to hold real conversations may not tell you anything. “Nearly 10 years after the dawn of the metrosexual, creative hairdos, fashion fever, and meticulous preening are no longer the sole provenance of the gay."

“Boys will still be boys—just more sensitive and stuff,” Lo writes. “A generation raised on therapy, teen flicks, reality TV, and emoticons (it's hard to be butch and Twitter at the same time, you know?) has embraced the freedom of sexual ambiguity.” That can lead to some awkwardness for interested women: “Have you ever tried asking a guy if he's straight? I have. It's awkward." So farewell, gaydar, writes Lo. "We'll miss how you kept us from winking at the other team.”