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Don't Judge Car Crash Mom; Judge Alcoholism

By Harry Kimball,  Newser Staff

Posted Aug 12, 2009 2:57 PM CDT

(Newser) – It’s easy to condemn Diane Schuler—the mom who drove drunk and stoned the wrong way on a highway and killed herself, four children, and three others—writes Susan Cheever on Salon. But “for those of us who have ever driven a car after having a few beers, and for mothers who have driven in cars with too many small children, the story is more complicated." The real evil is alcoholism, writes Cheever, herself a former alcoholic, and judging one person won’t help a bit.

Cheever imagines Schuler feeling stressed about the long drive with 5 clamoring kids and, using an alcoholic's logic, steeling herself by drinking. "Perhaps to fortify herself for the drive, Schuler reached for vodka and pot, substances she had probably used in the past. It may not seem obvious to someone who has never had a drinking problem, but for a woman whose most reliable support had become alcohol, it could make a kind of sad, twisted sense."  Mourn for those Schuler killed, Cheever writes, but let’s also “redouble our energy toward saving some of the 36 innocents who will be killed by drunk driving today and every other day.”

Diane and Daniel Schuler with their children Bryan, 5, and Erin, 2.
Diane and Daniel Schuler with their children Bryan, 5, and Erin, 2.   (AP Photo)
Diane, left, and Daniel Schuler are seen posing for a photo on their wedding day.
Diane, left, and Daniel Schuler are seen posing for a photo on their wedding day.   (AP Photo)
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Did Diane Schuler know she had a drinking problem? We can't know. But one of the ugly aspects of addiction is that the addict's brain insists there is no problem. - Susan Cheever

If there is a devil, he must be chortling at the way we outlaw smoking and revile obesity all the while having a glass of wine to take the edge off before we pick up the kids at camp. - Susan Cheever

Especially for women, alcohol has tremendous appeal as a way to calm our fears and blunt our miseries; it is private, portable, available and often very effective.
- Susan Cheever

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OWLWOMANXXXX
Aug 13, 2009 12:47 PM CDT
Once society gets used to the idea that some people are allergic to alcohol {ie. alcoholics} the easier it will be for us recovering alcoholics to stay on the wagon...which, by the way, I have been riding for the last 30 years....the accident was caused by a person behind the wheel who was very, very drunk....end of story....and it is the responsibility of any one who is having trouble with alcohol to acknowledge it and do something about it
oldgoat
Aug 13, 2009 7:51 AM CDT
I would say that you have to judge not only the alcoholism but also the drug use and yes she needs to be judged also. She was the one that was suppose to be in charge and have the responsibility of the children in her van. The booze and drugs are just a excuse for failing to be responsible.
Tripp
Aug 13, 2009 6:57 AM CDT
Possible suicide? I think somewhere down inside she wanted to end it.

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