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Don't Judge Car Crash Mom; Judge Alcoholism

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(Newser) – It’s easy to condemn Diane Schuler—the mom who drove drunk and stoned the wrong way on a highway and killed herself, four children, and three others—writes Susan Cheever on Salon. But “for those of us who have ever driven a car after having a few beers, and for mothers who have driven in cars with too many small children, the story is more complicated." The real evil is alcoholism, writes Cheever, herself a former alcoholic, and judging one person won’t help a bit.

Cheever imagines Schuler feeling stressed about the long drive with 5 clamoring kids and, using an alcoholic's logic, steeling herself by drinking. "Perhaps to fortify herself for the drive, Schuler reached for vodka and pot, substances she had probably used in the past. It may not seem obvious to someone who has never had a drinking problem, but for a woman whose most reliable support had become alcohol, it could make a kind of sad, twisted sense."  Mourn for those Schuler killed, Cheever writes, but let’s also “redouble our energy toward saving some of the 36 innocents who will be killed by drunk driving today and every other day.”

Diane and Daniel Schuler with their children Bryan, 5, and Erin, 2.
Diane and Daniel Schuler with their children Bryan, 5, and Erin, 2.   (AP Photo)
Diane, left, and Daniel Schuler are seen posing for a photo on their wedding day.
Diane, left, and Daniel Schuler are seen posing for a photo on their wedding day.   (AP Photo)
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Did Diane Schuler know she had a drinking problem? We can't know. But one of the ugly aspects of addiction is that the addict's brain insists there is no problem. - Susan Cheever

If there is a devil, he must be chortling at the way we outlaw smoking and revile obesity all the while having a glass of wine to take the edge off before we pick up the kids at camp. - Susan Cheever

Especially for women, alcohol has tremendous appeal as a way to calm our fears and blunt our miseries; it is private, portable, available and often very effective.
- Susan Cheever

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TuStepp
Aug 12, 09 3:09 PM CDT
She was an adult and was supposed to be responsible! Trying to justify this incident is absurd. Reply
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Sonny_Crockett
Aug 12, 09 3:12 PM CDT
Yeeeeaahhh, but a double edged sword still has one side that is sharper and more deadlier than the other. Reply
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Sonny_Crockett
Aug 12, 09 3:19 PM CDT
Just to make it clear, this comment is about Harry Kimbals article, not a response to TuStepp. I agree with TuStepp.
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youngblood
Aug 12, 09 3:20 PM CDT
"Don't judge car crash mom, judge alcoholism" Tell that to the murdered victims lady, oh you can't, they're DEAD!! Sometimes I think we all live in a World of sniveling Oprah watching little babies who would rather blame whatever to take themselves off the hook and make them themselves feel better instead of taking responsibility for it where it belongs. I say blame it on the fuck up who caused the damage, Diane Schuler. She had a choice, drink 10 shots of vodka and smoke up and drive a 2 ton vehicle carrying children or NOT! Reply
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schmidtkoff
Aug 12, 09 3:22 PM CDT
and your point is what? don't blame the alcohollic who drove drunk and killed 7 innocent people? that you yourself drove drinking beer while your hubby drank vodka? what's your point b--tch? forgive and forget? Reply
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