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More Sex, and More Anxieties, Too

Gratification has never been easier, or more confusing

By Kevin Spak,  Newser Staff

Posted Oct 27, 2009 11:33 AM CDT

(Newser) – Technology has made finding sexual partners easy, but the digital mating dance is fraught with many new sources of anxiety, from too many opportunities to too much information. New York magazine has combed over two years of its popular “Sex Diaries” to create a guide to the plugged-in New Yorker’s sexual insecurities. Among them:

  • Too Much Choice: Phones and computers give us the constant option to go do—and be with—someone else, which leads to...
  • The Wrong Choice: An inordinate number of diarists were about to get it on when they got a call, text, or IM from another potential suitor and were overcome with indecision.

  • Not Being Chosen: Being without options would be a disaster, so one always has to have someone on the back burner—which is a "confusing, destabilizing, and exhausting place to be."
  • Appearing Too Enthusiastic: You lose the back burner game by displaying more enthusiasm than your would-be partner. Diarists are constantly guarding their emotions; using the “l” word unilaterally is an unforgivable strategic blunder.
For more, check out the story.

Cellphones, instant messaging, mating sites and other digital innovations have changed the game forever.
Cellphones, instant messaging, mating sites and other digital innovations have changed the game forever.   (Shutterstock)
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COMMENTS
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plstyle
Oct 27, 2009 8:43 AM CDT
How about the most important anxiety of them all. What the hell did i just catch, if anything?? (esp if your a good catholic and don't use protection?)
JoeQ
Oct 27, 2009 8:25 AM CDT
Show me your ASCII and I'll show you my EBCDIC.
Dr.Gonzo
Oct 27, 2009 8:04 AM CDT
Whatever happened to just old fashioned hooker loving

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