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Porn Doesn't Have to Ruin Sex

But only if guys remember it's entertainment, not an educational tool

By Nick McMaster,  Newser Staff

Posted Nov 11, 2009 1:57 PM CST

(Newser) – Porn’s been getting a bad rap of late for turning men into bad lovers. But it’s really the guys’ fault, not the porn, writes Cord Jefferson. A Nielsen survey reports that a third of visitors to XXX websites are women, so clearly porn itself isn’t a definitive turn-off. But women tend to favor lesbian porn, a female friend tells Jefferson, because “we'd rather watch footage of women actually enjoying themselves, not being sexually exploited by some hairless dude."

The male mistake is to take porn too literally, forgetting that it is fantasy, fuel for real-life sensuality, Jefferson writes for Nerve. "I think where men make the mistake is when they try to make those fantasies into realities,” another female friend tells Jefferson. At best, porn can help two partners communicate what they like and don't like. "You'll learn far more from each other than from the porn," notes the female editor of the skin site Fleshbot.

He'd better not take too many lovemaking lessons from porn.
He'd better not take too many lovemaking lessons from porn.   (Shutterstock)
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Men should watch lesbian porn to see how the woman on the receiving end is actually enjoying herself. Not being ridden like a horse while standing on her head.
- Anonymous pal of Cord Jefferson

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COMMENTS
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super_soft_wizard
Nov 13, 2009 8:48 AM CST
Plenty of women like sex the way it is in plenty of porn. Maybe it's just my generation, but nearly every girl I'm with likes it rough and with some choking.
Dictator
Nov 12, 2009 12:44 PM CST
lol you had that saved in your favorites. dirty dog...
Observer
Nov 12, 2009 5:59 AM CST
Porn is fun and women get turned on watching it. Some may actually learn from it as well.

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