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To Improve Your Marriage, Travel Alone

You'll reconnect with yourself and miss your spouse

By Matt Cantor,  Newser Staff

Posted Nov 14, 2010 7:01 AM CST

(Newser) – In a marriage, sometimes the most romantic getaway is a solo vacation, writes Neal Pollack for Salon. “Stagnation is marriage's greatest enemy, so sometimes Regina and I go on trips without each other.” For her 40th birthday, he held down the fort while she had a blast visiting crop circles—something he’d never want to do. But “I wanted her to be happy on her own terms.”

“By merely sending Regina on a trip, I'd made her life better, and that made me feel good.” Then Pollack took his “own adventure,” a time when, “for a few days, or weeks, you can revive your youthful illusions of wonder.” And there’s an important bonus: the trip “creates actual longing,” the “gift of missing each other,” until you’re “finally, gratefully home.”

Traveling alone may help your marriage, writes Neal Pollack.
Traveling alone may help your marriage, writes Neal Pollack.   (Shutterstock)
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doxa
Nov 14, 2010 3:27 PM CST
Separate vacations can be good..marriage or promising to love and to hold for life is only engaged in and successful by 3% of all animals..and we're now findingthat some animals we thought never"drifted from the nest" and had a fling actually do wander and mate with other makes-females..so if separate vacations work go for it..marriage is a 50 -50 shot..not great odds
youngblood
Nov 14, 2010 11:12 AM CST
And then you have couples married 60 years and are in bliss and still walk down the street hand in hand.
postroad
Nov 14, 2010 7:37 AM CST
In short: being married to a person for a length of time is tedious but rather than split, or take new lovers, just keep away from each other from time to time so that you can avoid the tediousness of marriage. What does this tell us about marriage, and is this but a way of being timid so as to stay married? Just asking.
 

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