For a Better Relationship, Postpone Sex
Researchers find good things come to those who wait
By Matt Cantor, Newser User
Posted Dec 28, 2010 11:34 AM CST
Postponing sex may lead to better relationships, research suggests.   (Shutterstock)

(Newser) – If you’re after a healthy relationship, it may be best to wait before hitting the sack. Couples who wait longer are more satisfied and stable later, research published in the Journal of Family Psychology suggests. “If couples become sexual too early, this very rewarding area of the relationship overwhelms good decision-making and keeps couples in a relationship that might not be the best for them in the long run,” the study's head tells LiveScience.

Researchers looked at 2,035 heterosexual people married for the first time; their average age was 36. They asked subjects when they first had sex with their spouses, and questioned them to find out about their level of communication, satisfaction, and stability with their partners. Those who delayed sex until marriage rated their relationship stability 22% higher than those who had sex within the first month; they called their relationship satisfaction 20% higher and sexual quality 15% higher. The Telegraph notes that couples who had sex after the one-month mark but before marriage reaped about half the benefit.

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Dec 29, 2010 2:03 AM CST
Hell to the no. A relationship is sex. Okay? Good, now let's talk about how to live together too.
Dec 28, 2010 8:59 PM CST
love at first sight. i was positively smitten by a stranger who appeared in my group of friends. i made sure i showed up where ever i thought he would be. i did chase him shamelessly. yet refused to be caught. he ended up chasing me. i remember the first time he attempted to give me a kiss. i shrank and shrieked to get away. lol. i would show up at gatherings of friends and he would be schmoozing with other women. i would leave. only to go home to find a message on the answering machine: what's a matter with you, why did you leave, answer your phone schmidkoff. i ignored him. yes. i abstained from sex with this person. only because i believed and still do that it is worth abstaining from. we ended up together. and our friends called us the "couple of the year". was it worth it? yes. there is more to life than a quick roll in the sack.
Dec 28, 2010 3:52 PM CST
Every time I hear of a study or movement that touts; "abstain from sex", or "Have a better relationship by abstaining from sex" or "Just say NO", I have to laugh. The same people that wrote the articals or conducted the studies are the same people that were screwing their brains out in high school and collage. Hypocrates! People have been having sex since the beginning of time. Sex is fun, sex is healthy and sex is a good thig. Anything in excess can become a bad thing. However, to say "the way to have a better relationship is to postponing sex", I'm calling Bull S**t.