STDs: Open Relationships Safer Than Cheating

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  It is difficult for a homely fat woman to find a job; employers would rather hire a pretty youngster. Unemployed fatties need to survive so they find a lonely guy to knock them up; many have children from several boyfriends. Homely women rarely use birth control pills; most live off welfare checks, free healthcare, and dumpsters.

I have been in a loving, non-monogamous relationship for a couple years. I can attest to the fact that people who choose non-monogamy are generally more safe when it comes to STI precautions and contraception. When my partner or I want to go have fun with a playmate, it's done with each other's full knowledge, so there is no sense of sneaking around, or a thought that anyone is doing something bad. Protection is required. So I can vouch in a very real way to the conclusions of this study. Non-monogamy works when people realize a few things: that sex and love are two very different things; that sex is not a bad thing; that if you make sure you use contraception and safe-sex practices, then sex is nothing to be afraid of and is a light and fun thing to enjoy; and that jealousy is a poisonous emotion, and if you can master it and get rid of it, you will be a healthier, happier individual. 

I am 38 years old and have been with my partner for 20 years(21 years this August). He has cheated on me 3 times in our relationship,been to massage parlours and vip lounge with stripper's. I cheated on him by having a 3some. This stuff happened back in the 90's we were young and stupid. I thought all this sh*t was over. I found out in April of this year he screwed some old friend that he bummed into.She was telling him that I slept with his brother(which I did not and told him so 19 years ago). He believed her and they were drinking and had had unprotected sex. The women called me and told me a week later cause he was never gonna tell me. He went to her house the night I was told about the 2 of them,and low and behold he does it again cause he felt he had no were to go,and our relationship is over. He could have come home or slept on her couch. Anyway, I forgave him and for a little why we were all hanging out with each other and she calls me and I would talk to her like she's a friend. When he cheated each time he would never use protection and 1 girl he was doing she was doing 3 other guys in that week.I am always running to my doctors getting checked and so far I am lucky. I still wonder is he gonna do it again... He has already told me he still wants a 3 some cause he has never had one. If someone wanted advice and was going through the same thing I am going through I would tell that person to leave his sorry ass. Yet I can't bring myself to do so. Writing and prof-reading this is upsetting me and it hurts so much. If the roles were reversed and I did this to him, he would have left me and want nothing to do with me.