Do Men Need More Rights on 'Forced Fatherhood'?
Two bloggers disagree on consequences of unplanned pregnancies
By John Johnson, Newser Staff
Posted Jun 13, 2013 7:10 PM CDT

(Newser) – With Father's Day near comes a debate about "forced fatherhood." The phrase refers to guys who get turned into fathers against their will through unplanned pregnancies, explains Laurie Shrage in the New York Times. Men in this situation "have few choices," she writes. It's ultimately the woman's call on whether to have the baby, but her decision could saddle the man with years of child support even though he had no intention of becoming a dad. It's time we gave men more "reproductive autonomy" by providing them with more options, writes Shrage. For example, maybe he contributes only to the medical expenses related to the pregnancy and birth, and the couple goes their separate ways.

At Jezebel, blogger Meher Ahmad isn't having it. Is this kind of situation unfair to the guys? Yep, and they're just going to have to suck it up. "At the end of the day, the only thing the government, and society, requires fathers to do is pay money, which is a hell of a lot easier than raising a child alone, as most mothers who have children out of wedlock are forced to do," she writes. "Yeah, it's unfair for them, but it's not nearly as unfair as forced motherhood." Click for her full column. Or for Shrage's full column.

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Jun 22, 2013 7:47 AM CDT
Neither is being forced. People need to better comprehend the creation of a tiny innocent human being. It is not just a cutesy toy. It did not ask to be born. It has a biological need for nurture. this report and the comments all seem to completely overlook the child. The more we lose sight of these facts the more we foster the likes of Susan Smith who drowned her two boys in order to gain greater freedom and success in an affair she was having.
Jun 21, 2013 6:28 PM CDT
If the pregnancy resulted because the woman purposely got pregnant without the man's knowledge then she should carry the full burden of raising the child. No child support. If it was an accident or poor planning then the man has no say.
Jun 19, 2013 5:24 AM CDT
Nature has determined that women are the ones to carry the child and therefore have the options and risks of pregnancy or it's termination. Guys whining about women's reproductive choices are blaming women for the system that evolution has created. Having sex in a way that risks pregnancy is an adult thing to do. Any man who is not ready to accept the responsibility of supporting a child, has the reproductive right to abstain from vaginal intercourse, the right to keep a supply of condoms on hand, the right to ask the women to also use contraception that he can provide, such as contraceptive foam or film and the right to educate himself about the correct use of a condom - 98% effective WHEN USED CORRECTLY. Our vindictive and hyper moral attitudes that prevent schools from teaching birth control and negotiating reproductive decisions with a partner, fail to prepare people to accept responsibility for their sexual behavior. If kids could learn at home and school about sexual function and negotiation the same way they learn not to cut in line or steal from others, they could begin their sexually active lives with tools to engage in sexual behavior that minimizes the risks for pregnancy and STDs.