Jeopardy Champ: Let's End Misogyny in Nerd Culture
Idea of male entitlement has got to go: Arthur Chu
By Matt Cantor, Newser User
Posted May 28, 2014 12:48 PM CDT
Jim Parsons, right, and Simon Helberg in a scene from "The Big Bang Theory."   (AP Photo/CBS, Michael Yarish)

(Newser) – When it comes to women, male nerds grow up in a media-fed culture of entitlement, writes Arthur Chu in the Daily Beast. From Steve Urkel to The Big Bang Theory, we've seen the story of the "awkward but lovable nerd" with the "unreciprocated crush on hot non-nerdy popular girl." The narrative goes that if the boy works hard enough at it, he's entitled to "get the girl." In other words, "men are taught that women are things to 'earn,'" and some are furious when they don't get what they believe they deserve. Chu, a recent Jeopardy champion and self-professed nerd, acknowledges his own "rants full of self-pity and entitlement" back when he "needed to grow up."

In real life, the unswerving pursuit of an unrequited love can lead to stalker-like behavior and worse—including rape culture and the Santa Barbara attack. Elliot Rodger's complaints beforehand amounted to a "standard frustrated angry geeky guy manifesto, except for the part about mass murder," Chu writes. It's time for men to recognize that "we are not the lovable nerdy protagonist" who somehow deserves a prize—and if we don't "get the girl," "it’s because other people’s bodies and other people’s love are not something that can be taken nor even something that can be earned—they can be given freely, by choice, or not." Click for the full piece.

More From Newser
My Take on This Story
To report an error on this story,
notify our editors.
Jeopardy Champ: Let's End Misogyny in Nerd Culture is...
Show results without voting
You Might Like
Showing 3 of 102 comments
May 29, 2014 6:22 AM CDT
Nerds get sucked into the fantasy of what a "HOT" woman is. In reality, she is spray tanned, starving herself, spending boatloads of money on make up, hair and clothes, and anytime she is photographed, has her gut sucked in so much she is hurting. (Its always fun to see a girl in a bikini on TV try to keep her gut sucked in while she is talking.) "Hot women" are just acting. Some women love doing that. They do it for themselves or to compete with other women. They are NOT doing it for YOU. They just hate you for being so stupid you don't know whats going on. You can go a long way to having a decent dating life once you realize those facts about women. (Be sure and pick up my new book, "I am the only man that really understands women".
May 28, 2014 7:01 PM CDT
I think A.Chu (bless u) is wrong because I didn't see Urkel pursue the girl because he was looking for entitlement. He pursued her because he was head over heels for her. She was unresponsive to him but he never became furious and thought he earned her? Where the heck did that come from? I usually see these types of stories end where the girl realizes she has been shallow, and looking for something in other shallow people. Then she realizes that a true companion/friend, who cares deeply for her, is more important (non critical but supportive, giving advice not based on ones motives but the benefits of the other ect). I am guessing the moral: When the sh*t hits the fan (disagreements, opposing characteristics, setbacks etc), like it always will in a long term relationship, the person who can forgive or accept the other as they are (and still see the other as "everything") , will make for a stronger relationship. As too many people, when they hit the turbulence throw the relationship away. The girl may realize that their family loves her no matter what she looks like, or how successful she is, or what mistakes she makes, or if her ideals change. Family is security. Course maybe Urkel's raging hormones made him do whatever it took to get into her pants.
May 28, 2014 6:56 PM CDT
Geez, that one was a helluva stretch. Talk about jumping on a bandwagon.