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Women: Embrace 'Wifely Duty,' Say Yes to Sex

By John Johnson,  Newser Staff

Posted Mar 3, 2009 6:40 PM CST

(Newser) – Attention women: For the sake of your relationship and general world harmony, it's time to resume having sex even when you're not in the mood. So says Bettina Arndt, a female columnist for the Canberra Times, who wonders, "Whatever happened to wifely duty?" It's still possible—in fact, easy—to enjoy sex even if you're not jazzed about the idea beforehand, she says.

"For couples to experience regular, pleasurable sex and sustain loving relationships, women must get over that ideological roadblock of assumptions about desire and 'just do it,'" writes Arndt. "The issue is not just sex, not getting rocks off but the emotional experience of making love, feeling connected, wanted and desirable and not facing the humiliation of constant rejection. It's an issue that cuts to the heart of a real relationship."

Whatever happened to wifely duty, wonders columnist Bettina Arndt.
"Whatever happened to wifely duty," wonders columnist Bettina Arndt.   (Shutter Stock)
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The issue is not just sex, not getting rocks off but the emotional experience of making love, feeling connected, wanted and desirable and not facing the humiliation of constant rejection. - Bettina Arndt

The new rule was that sex must wait until women are well and truly in the mood. But that was where we went wrong. The assumption that women need to want sex to enjoy it has proved a really damaging sexual idea. - Bettina Arndt

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Guest
Mar 4, 2009 6:53 AM CST
This needs to be discussed before marriage. I absolutely love being married. It's the best thing I ever did; this from a guy who planned to be single his entire life. We discussed every single scenario we could imagine. 1,000 "what if's" from "never going to sleep mad" to "who has the tiebreaker vote". All of those marriage jokes that you hear… those are people that never did what we did… couples that assumed that since they were in love that everything would work itself out.
Guest
Mar 4, 2009 4:17 AM CST
Love it. People need to make up their minds whether they want sexual women or not. If they do, then stop persecuting them! If so, stop punishing them for NOT being in the mood.
professortech
Mar 4, 2009 3:37 AM CST
Not in the mood??? Not in the Mood???? Some how these words don not seem to make sense to me. ;-)

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