Why Marriage Is Obsolete (at Least for Women)
Institution is obsolete—let's fix this 'bum deal'
By Matt Cantor, Newser User
Posted Jun 17, 2009 11:03 AM CDT
"Isn't the idea of lifelong marriage obsolete?"   (Shutterstock)

(Newser) – Marriage is fraught with “emotional pain, humiliation, and logistical difficulty.” And for women—expected to work, parent, tend to the house, and on top of all that, keep the romance alive—it’s a “bum deal,” writes Sandra Tsing Loh, herself ending a 20-year union, in the Atlantic. In this era of “white-collar work and washing machines” and soaring life expectancies, “isn’t the idea of lifelong marriage obsolete?”

Sure, stability is important for raising kids. But that stability needn’t be traditional, Loh notes. We could try “the tribal approach”: have young kids raised “in a household of mothers and their female kin.” Men can take custody when the kids are older. Or we could “accept marriage as a splitting-the-mortgage arrangement”—a pair of friends, who “set the bedroom aglow”—only with their separate laptops.

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Jun 19, 2009 3:19 AM CDT
Preach it, sister.
Jun 18, 2009 12:57 PM CDT
I'm a guy who married his best friend 39 years ago. The fact that we have worked hard at making it work means that we are still best friends. Marriage is for her and I, not for the kids, who are happy,grown and gone. (Also happily married to better persons than themselves, learned that from me.)
Jun 18, 2009 12:41 PM CDT
Says the member of the obsolete party.