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Parents Turn to Facebook to Keep Tabs on Junior

Some kids quick to 'unfriend'; others call it 'sensible'

By Matt Cantor,  Newser Staff

Posted Sep 8, 2009 8:26 AM CDT

(Newser) – For some parents, Facebook has become a window into the lives of their children, a means for mom and dad to monitor—and sometimes admonish—their kids. “It's so much easier to keep track of what they eat and when they pick their nose this way,” notes one parent. Some kids don’t mind the virtual relationship, the Wall Street Journal reports, while others have “unfriended” their parents in a bid for independence—or as a way to avoid their "pestering," says one 25-year-old who was chided for posting photos of barhopping then asking dad for cash.

“Mom, it's like my friends and I are standing around having a conversation and you interrupt and say, 'Hi, guys! What are you doing?'” complained one youth. But one 18-year-old calls her parents’ monitoring—which has led to discussion about dating—“sensible,” though she admits to occasionally blocking her dad from seeing her status updates. Experts say a certain degree of watchfulness is appropriate, but parents must know where to draw the line. "As we become better detectives, they become better fugitives," says a psychologist.

A Facebook user edits their privacy settings.
A Facebook user edits their privacy settings.   (AP Photo/The Canadian Press, Sean Kilpatrick)
Some parents are keeping a close eye on their kids over the Internet.
Some parents are keeping a close eye on their kids over the Internet.   (AP Photo/Thomas Kienzle)
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professortech
Sep 8, 2009 8:12 AM CDT
Any parent who has an underage child with a Facebook page should also have a facebook page and be "friends" with their child. It is a total dillusion that you are somehow "invading the privacy" of your teen by being their Facebook Friend. You are protecting their safety, guiding how they present themselves in public and opening an alternative line ... Read Moreof communication and family connection. Just be wise enough to avoid embarassing them among all of their friends and you will have a strong tool to help build on your (hopefully) already strong relationship with your child.
professortech
Sep 8, 2009 8:10 AM CDT
Your dad should have said "oh then don'y expect to use a computer in our house or have any other priviledges of a mature person". Your dad did you no service (especially if you are under age and still in his house) by bowing out. No doubt the very fact that you told him NO shows how much you disrespct him already.
lonewolf17
Sep 8, 2009 5:17 AM CDT
My dad asked if he could join facebook and I told him, "no", and he replied, "oh" and walked away. Done deal.
 

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