Why You Must Delete Your Ex

Technology has made breakups very complicated

By Evann Gastaldo, Newser Staff

Posted Mar 20, 2010 4:38 PM CDT

(Newser) – Thanks to Facebook, Twitter, tumblr, and GChat—not to mention good old email—breaking up with someone today is even harder than it used to be. “How do you get over your ex when they keep popping up all over YouFace and you've got 32 mutual friends to keep your online bubbles connected?” writes Christine Borden in the San Francisco Appeal. At some point, as difficult at it seems, there’s only one answer: Remove all—all—those "e-mementos."

“Regardless of how beautiful and thought-provoking and dove-releasing the breakup was, you just have to delete,” she writes. "At a certain point, you need to not just delete the person but block them as well. If your ex is all over the Internet, it's almost a necessity to block their blogs, their tumblrs, their profiles, and basically any other website they've touched or associate with." Otherwise, it's too easy to keep track of your ex's every move. "You don't need that, and it's not healthy."

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As tempting as it is to troll Google Buzz looking for evidence of cheating, you must break away from all contact with your ex. (Shutter Stock)

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Go ahead and crumple into a little ball on the floor of your shower, sobbing 'dear God, why?! Why me? Why now?' Just don't tweet about it to make your ex feel like a horrible person (and your friends cringe). Please. - Christine Borden

When you start feeling that void in your stalker heart, just think of how your productivity has soared! - Christine Borden

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specialkt

Mar 22, 2010 2:04 PM CDT

This is a load of horse sh*t...sure delete them if you're borderline psychotic and prone to stalker like
behavior! But not all breakups have to end badly. You should try to be a little more realistic and grown-up!
Relationships don't always workout, but your ex is still a person. A person that you once found enough
interest in to share part of your life with -- emotionally and physically. That should count for something
more than a dirty mistake!

If it's not working out acknowledge that, salvage what you can of your friendship and move on. There are
plenty of options out there. Try looking on the brighter side of things. At least you didn't stay in a bad
relationship until one day you find yourself so miserable that you're counting the days until your kids graduate high school, just so you can file for divorce! Be happy that you're no longer headed in the wrong direction. Learn from the experience, take adequate time to recoup and direct your energy towards something constructive, such as your goals and life path.

It can be healthy to distance yourself from someone, for a short period, if it helps you to move on. Just explain to them that you're doing so. But it's unhealthy to delete a loved one from your life and force them into becoming an enemy! Such drastic measures should only be taken in extreme situations, such as cases involving abuse.

SmirkingObserver

Mar 21, 2010 3:20 AM CDT

This is chatty crap, I feel ill.

DanielGrak

Mar 21, 2010 2:54 AM CDT

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