Girl Gets Racy on Facebook —Then Mom Steps In

Val Starks shows tough love to 13-year-old in now-viral Facebook video
By Arden Dier,  Newser Staff
Posted May 22, 2015 6:32 AM CDT

Baltimore's "Mom of the Year" might have competition. A video showing a Denver mom lecturing her 13-year-old daughter about a secret Facebook page has gone viral, nabbing the young girl plenty of attention, but probably not the kind she wanted. Val Starks, 31, says she uncovered the secret account—featuring her daughter in a bra as the profile picture and stating that the girl was 19—and began warning her about the dangers of online predators; several adult males were among her daughter's Facebook friends. Starks tells ABC News she expressed her disappointment and then gave her daughter a choice: endure a spanking or make a video and post it to her Facebook page. "She said she'd rather have a whoopin', so I chose the latter," Starks says. In the five-minute, 40-second video, Starks makes her daughter repeat various statements, including her real age and the fact that she doesn't own "lace panties" and still watches the Disney Channel.

Starks is pretty relentless with her questioning, and the girl breaks down in tears: "Are you a freak? Does your Facebook page say you're a freak? Do you even know anything about being a freak?" In a second video, Starks says she told her daughter there are consequences to every bad decision, including Starks' own; she says she was jailed for eight months in connection with a marijuana offense and that's made it tough to find a job. The original video has been viewed more than 11 million times and Starks says she has been flooded with messages of support. But others say her actions look a lot like bullying, and a parenting expert tells CNN humiliation is not the answer. But as Starks puts it, "I'm not her friend. I am my own village, and I am trying my best with this little girl." She tells KMGH her daughter isn't being bullied at school over the video. (And on the opposite end of the spectrum: these Florida parents.)

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